One of the things that makes this blog worth reading is the range of topics. You’ll enjoy the diverse topics covering all aspects of life and business. My goal is to provide more of a personal take on life, so I will not be as critical of others.
The most important part is you’ll read people’s thoughts on topics that matter to them, and not just the ones they’ve made up on the fly. It’s like a good friend who wants to be your friend, but you never really know how you’d feel about them. You’ll always be surprised by how people feel, and how they think, and it’s very easy to just get stuck in your own head.
I just had an email from a friend who had sent me a link to a blog article. The article was a guest post about how everyone is a walking advertisement, and the only things you can really control is your behavior. So I was excited to read it. However, before I could really read it, I had to read the article to see if I would agree with it. I read it, and I found out that my friend was right.
Yes, I agree. This is the same thing that comes up when you think about being a victim of bullying. You feel helpless, powerless, and that your own behaviors are a result of your emotional state. So you start acting out and behaving badly. So now you’re the bully, and if you can control yourself, you can change your behavior. The problem is that once you start acting out, you can’t stop yourself from acting out.
I disagree with this idea of victim-blaming because it only serves to increase your victimhood. You dont know anything about yourself, so it just feels like someone else is telling you what to do. Thats why you have to do all of this mental gymnastics and find a way to fit the behaviors you notice into the real world.
The bully you have to put up with the real world for a period of time and work to make yourself into a nice person. It wouldnt bother me if you didnt act that way, so I dont think its victim-blaming. I just think its like people who have a problem with alcohol. They can stop it for a period of time, and then it starts to get worse.
I agree wholeheartedly. I think it’s important to not let our habits, routines, impulses, and reactions control us. It’s also important to know the difference between the two and to learn how to change them. But that’s not why I’m writing this.
I think it’s important to learn to recognize when we’re on autopilot and to consciously decide to make a change. I think that when we do this, we tend to have a better feeling about ourselves. Like I love my work more than I did before I had kids, or that I’m a better writer now that Ive stopped smoking. I think that this is because we know how to stop being self-absorbed.
This is part of the reason I switched from an online to an in-person career. As a single mom, I was constantly on autopilot. I just had a habit of writing my children’s names after their names in order to make it impossible for them to forget them. I would do this and forget to even realize what I was doing. But I’m also aware that this was a self-destructive habit. I didn’t care that I was writing their names after their names.
When it comes to taking your own self-destructive habits, you have to be very careful. I find that I can remember things that happened in the past, but I cannt remember anything from the present. I have to do some sort of meta-cognition that tells me that I am in the present, or I wont remember anything from the present. I also have to be aware that I am not in the present.